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How I Overcame My Biggest Fear

31. March 2017

How I overcame my biggest fear

People! I can drive!

What does this have to do with personal finance or financial independence? Everything and nothing. Read on.

My History with (not) Driving:

You see, for a very, very long time driving for me was a dread. I got my driving license when I was 18. I had my driving lessons on a manual transmission car. It required a lot of coordination and I never had enough bandwidth to check the mirrors to see what’s going around the car. I could barely handle the gears!

I had no feeling about the size of the car. I was afraid of being honked or laughed at for my slow reactions. But I was most afraid of breaking the car or hurting someone.

As life would have it, I have been living in cities with good public transport or/and bike lanes. I didn’t have a real practical need to own a car. So I never drove.

The few times I drove after I took the driving license was in my father’s old school, Russian, impossible-to-handle-for-a-beginner car. And oh my! Were these drives eventful! I almost got us both killed! I got kicked out of the car and shouted at.

That’s when my BIG, FAT, HAIRY FEAR of driving was born.

The situation became even more ridiculous when I took up a job working on a car navigation solution. How was I going to develop a product for drivers, without experiencing driving myself?!

Deep inside me I knew I would absolutely love driving and I can be good at it. I knew some day I will overcome my fear.

This day, my dears had come! I drove 2000km on a trip in South Africa! 

My proof for driving 2000km

Here’s the proof!

What was the tipping point? I think it was the moment when I wrote down the goal and put it on the wall. I committed to doing all these steps which would eventually help me reach my goal.

My driving goal as I defined it in December, 4 months ago

My driving goal as I defined it in December, 4 months ago

My Strategy:

  • I didn’t give up on something I knew I would love and be good at
  • I kept my driving license valid. I’ve had it for 14 years. It almost expired once because I forgot about it
  • I read again all about the driving rules and signs
  • I planned a road trip to a country with good road infrastructure
  • I drove 10 hours with a driving instructor prior to  the trip
  • I drove every day of the trip
  • Back home, in Berlin, I opened an account with DriveNow – a car sharing service

Lessons Learned:

  • Every fear or goal can be overcome step by step following a well-thought plan
  • It is not so difficult or dangerous to drive a car (as long as you follow the rules)
  • An automatic car is much easier than manual transmission car (Duh!)
  • I indeed loved every bit of the experience, especially the freedom of driving along the beautiful South African coast
  • Driving on the left is very easy to get used to
  • Parking is also manageable, it just requires more practice
  • The navigation solution features I was working on make much more sense now
  • My boyfriend is a brave man. He handed me the car keys without any hesitation and was the navigator for the whole trip.

So, what is the big deal about it?! A fear of driving is as dreadful and it looks as impossible as any other goal. It’s the small battles which take you to the final victory. If I can overcome one of the biggest fears of my life and relatively quickly, THEN reaching any goal is possible, even financial independence. So can you!

Have a thought about your biggest fears and what’s stopping you. Reevaluate these with a calm mind. Are they really so big and scary? Pick your biggest FEAR, make a plan how to overcome it and fight your way out of it!

*Update: I was feeling so confident and loving the SPEED that I must have ignored a speed limit. A week after I got back in Berlin, I got a speeding ticket … Thank you South African traffic policemen for keeping it safe!

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Tagged: lessons learned, life experiences, self development

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  1. Tanya says

    7. May 2017 at 11:26

    Haha! i ‘ve got my driving license in russia learning to drive with ” old school, Russian, impossible-to-handle-for-a-beginner “. I understand you!

    i did’n drive a lot later, so i was procrastinating to change driving license here.
    But now i consider driving pretty fun!
    i still like manual transmission cars, last year i drove at least 1500km in Croatia after renewing my license. and that was really cool.

    Anyway, leaving in Berlin with great PT i rearly drive here:)

    PS. like your blog!

    Reply
    • Kate App says

      7. May 2017 at 20:34

      Thanks, Tanya!
      That’s true – Berlin has great public transport. The biking lanes are also fantastic!
      I haven’t driven since I got back end of March. I feel that my driving confidence is slowly slipping away. Gotta go back to it!

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